First and foremost - Are you physically AND mentally healthy?
The sex industry can be really tiring, (and I don't just mean regarding the actions you'll be performing!)
If you're joining a "parlour" setup, you could be working up to 12 hour shifts.
Most of your shift you might be sitting around, bored out of your brains, waiting for a client to roll in.
If you've ever, say, sat in a doctor's waiting room after arriving on time for you're appt, but the doctor is running behind and you end up waiting an hour, how does this make you feel ? agitated? restless? anxious? stressed? well just imagine that wait extending to 5 hours.......
As I'm sure you're well aware, stress can take it's toll on our health VERY quickly.
Stress comes in many different forms, and if you're working in the sex industry, there are certain stresses that you just can't avoid, such as -
- Sexual Health issues- what if I catch something?
- Long hours - having to be cheerful, friendly and charming to complete strangers at 4am can be a challenge for most people!
- Secrecy- what if someone I know finds out?
- Money worries- It's been a really slow week but I still need to pay my rent!
- Other Workers- working alongside other girls has it's pro's & con's; although it can be good to build a rapport with your workmates, remember that they are your competition!
- Drugs - This client I'm seeing wants me to snort some coke with him!
But, there are always ways of minimising stress.
For example-
Sexual Health Issues - make sure you ALWAYS practice safe sex, no matter HOW MUCH MONEY your client is ready to offer you to do otherwise! Also it is extremely important to have regular check-ups! If you ask other girls you're working with, you'll find out the best place to go in your area. (in most areas, sexual health clinics provide a FREE service for working girls (& boys!))
Long Hours - ensure you do some research especially if you're thinking of joining a Parlour set-up; what are the opening hours? when do shifts start & finish? Are the shifts flexible? are there fines/penalties for arriving late, or leaving early if I don't feel well, or what happens if there's a problem at home?
Secrecy - Try and find a safe place to work that's NOT too close to where you live! Your travelling time to & from work may be a little longer, but you'll have a lot more piece of mind that you're nosy gossiping neighbour isn't going to see you walking into work!
Money Worries - unfortunately, the only way to minimise money worries, is the same as for any occupation; keep a record of your spending habits. e.g: Do you really need to buy expensive take-away's while at work, or is there a kitchen where you can prepare something from home? You'll find that just by making small adjustments to how you spend, you'll have more than enough to pay your rent!
Other Workers - Although it can be really hard in an all-girl environment, try and keep your personal life out of the workplace! I'm sure I'm not the only working girl in the world that has come across fellow workmates that will try anything to "put you off you're game". If you don't involve yourself in workplace gossip, you'll find that it won't affect you!
Drugs - my advise to you regarding the use of ANY recreational drugs at work? DON'T! (in this situation it is definately ok to lie a little, especially if the client is really pushing the issue; tell him that you just had a big fat line before he got there, and you're feeling so good you don't want to overload and spoil it! I have personally witnessed numerous beautiful, intelligent fun-loving working girls who have ended up being banned from parlours and losing their children because thay ended up with very messy drug habits! If you feel that you NEED a little something to be able to do your job- perhaps it's time to rethink your profession.)
( remember - the sex industry is definately not for everyone!)
Thankyou for reading this post, I promise there will be more very soon.....
If you have any specific questions, or need personal advice regarding this topic, PLEASE email me - hayleysplace@gmail.com and I'll do my best to help!
Love and Kisses,
Hayley x.
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